simple shui | these bedroom cures are everything

malcolm gladwell said, “anyone who has ever scanned the bookshelves of a new girlfriend or boyfriend – or peeked inside her or his medicine cabinet – understands this implicitly; you can learn as much – or more – from one glance at a private space as you can from hours of exposure to a public face.”

i find this to be exceptionally true. whether a bedroom is cluttered, reflective of only one partner’s personality + preferences, or the room with the least proof of devotion in a house, these choices are very revealing. because a bedroom tells me within a glance what you think you’re worth.

let’s talk about the trinity within this sacred space – SLEEP + STILLNESS + SENSUALITY. when we devote to these, our bedrooms feel magnificent and that transcends into the world LOVING us back, beloveds.

so, where to start?

SIMPLIFY. the focus of our bedroom deserves to be the bed. not the TV. or the treadmill. or the dresser. without the distractions, our bed feels welcoming and that harnesses the best energy for our exclusive benefit. simplify your space and watch your life expand.

SPLURGE. if ever there is an excuse to INDULGE, this is it! the two biggest investments i made in our bedroom were the linen headboard + bed and our linen sheets. now, i know the kneejerk response is “I don’t have the money to splurge.” truth? i didn’t either when i made the decision, but quality isn’t impulsive – it’s intentional. and sometimes that means intentionally saving money and watching for a good sale. all you have to do is make the commitment, and your hot little heart will be in pursuit of the perfect thing to set your soul on fire!

and before you hop over the whole headboard idea, if you feel at all alone. . .

or without reliable support in your life. . .

or your sense of self + inner strength is compromised. . .

BUY THE HEADBOARD. headboards are a powerful metaphor of support. and if you’re shopping for one, a solid headboard is most ideal. slatted boards can create a sense of separation from our beloved. however, if this is the headboard you’ve got, here’s a simple cure: tie a ribbon around the two middle vertical bars and you’ll unite any sense of division.

LET LOVE RULE. when confronted with i-can’t-find-my-person woes, i ask one simple Q: tell me about your room. usually something in the bedroom unwittingly anchors strong single energy. common culprits i’ve encountered: photos of a client by herself; silhouette art; a single bedside table; a bed pushed up against the wall, signifying one person’s side of the bed. you feel me, right? if you want partnership, express that all around you in the bedroom. and, top if off with a pair of rose quartz – the crystal with an affinity for LOVE energy. meow!

HOLD SPACE FOR HARMONY. round shapes promote fluid communication + healthy relationships, so i am all about curvy lamps, drum lampshades, round candles, deep button tufts on furniture, circle rugs, a bowl with a few round stones. . . whatever feels right to you.

TREASURE YOURSELF. think of wind and water – especially during a summer drought. water becomes stagnant and unsafe, eventually drying up. without wind, the air is stifling. those energy qualities are mimicked in a room where clutter convenes. in our bedrooms, this specifically translates into waking up groggy and never quite refreshed. and, when we’ve been sick, it can interfere with our ability to rebound back to good health. a good rule of thumb is if energy can’t fully circulate, our energy suffers.

a luxurious bedroom is not synonymous with expensive or spacious; rather, it is about drenching this sacred space with beauty the way you see it. when we choose to love our bedroom, it makes an irrepressible statement that we prioritize our own felicity. little by little, this kind of steady living has a cumulative effect. and in a room that nourishes sleeping deeper and waking more refreshed, we find ourselves – mind, body, and spirit – restored.

xo

simple shui | Q + A

“What feng shui advice would you suggest if someone has the following amount to spend: $10, $75, or $150?”

 

$10: wander into a local grocer and check out the fresh flower selection. there are often a variety of bouquets priced for less than $10. flowers aren’t waiting for someone who “deserves” them; they are there for whomever is willing to allow beauty in their lives. so, decide what you’re comfortable spending, and simply go look. shui loves to play this game, and there is usually a bundle priced perfectly for you!

$75: the front door is where we entice auspicious energy into our homes. and to be clear, this is the architecturally-intended front door of a house. energy goes where the eye does so it’s worth the endeavor to make the entrance entrancing. it is the simplest way to invite promising opportunities into our lives. guaranteed. 💕💕💕

easy upgrades: replace any burned out lights with brighter wattage. wipe down the door and its hardware. buy a new doormat, or shake out the one you currently use. change the doorbell! infuse the front path/porch with color and fragrance. pathways are analogous to opportunities finding their way to us, and healthy plants or bright flowers elevate beauty and suggest good health. maintain both, and it’s a magnetic invitation to whatever you desire welcoming in your life. hang a wind chime — when the wind blows, the pirouetting rods harness invisible and wildly good energy for you. and as the wind chime sings, it draws attention to the space, inviting more opportunities in your life.

$150: when we leave the same stuff on our walls for years and become numb to the feeling they generate, the walls lack that aliveness they once had – and that contributes to how you feel. take everything off the walls at least once a year, let the space breathe, and decide what you want to put back. and if your gallery is growing lackluster, it is time for change! be gutsy. make a statement. say something controversial. rethink those first impressions. there is inexhaustible magic in the joy we feel seeing something new and different – a single glance creating a visceral response that ripples positive energy around us.. xo

simple shui | happy halloween

if you haven’t joined the simple shui™ party happening on alexa + amazon, it’s time to moonwalk over and join me! i am sharing shui tricks + treats + truths you want! you need!! you can’t live without – haha!!! so, how about a whiff of the shui being served daily  – and just in time for Halloween!

this ditty i found in my notes from a call years ago with my mentor and friend, ellen. once upon a time, my lovelies would be so scared to go out on Halloween night, so she told me to send them trick-or-treating with a favorite piece of clothing underneath their costumes. simple and it reinforces feeling safe from all the things going bump in the night! if you want to mom-ify this a little more, encourage yours to choose something in a light color to balance out the dark palette and gestures of this holiday.

salt is one of nature’s most yang elements – and it offers protection from unwanted energy. so, whether it is at a festive party or on Halloween night, salt is a good thing to have on hand when good and questionable energies collide. instead of simply leaving bowls of salt out, however, let’s make this more glamorous. use himalayan salt candle holders to set the mood and keep negative ions (nature’s feel good vibes!) floating through the air! #winwinwin

wealth begins with a consciousness of abundance. you have to see it to receive it, so use the excuse of candy season to stock up on + hand out gold covered chocolate coins! how’s that for delicious and auspicious?

yang energy creates movement and action – so, it can speed up what we are seeking to manifest in our lives. and if you’re a destination spot for trick-or-treaters, your house will be the lucky recipient of super duper yang energy. however, if there is clutter in your space, it will absorb that reinvigorated energy that knows how to move you in new directions – opportunities + adventures + LOVE. what to do? give your house a quick clean before the doorbell rings and the good energy bling will be all yours!

finally, this simple shui™ tip has mileage all year long, lovies! after any holiday travel or vacation, you want to yank up (yang up) energy in your house. when we are away, the energy in our space gets quiet, settled, and a little too still because nothing is happening. upon your return, make like a gust of wind and turn the faucets on; open the windows; tune into some music; and stoke the stove or oven to get energy back on her feet and moving on your behalf. a quick on + off is all you need to wake the space up! remember, moving energy equals prosperous energy, so this shui guarantees high fives + smiles 8 days a week!

xo

simple shui | give your place a feng shui makeover

i am a ban.do devotee. i LOVE their agendas – every single one has mapped my forecast, fortressed my dreams, and retired as a snapshot of everything that happened in my life that year. naturally, i turned my lovelies onto them, too. which is why you’ll understand how it felt like kismet when – in our different corners on an ordinary day – we all noticed the last weekly inspo in our 2018 planners:

GIVE YOUR PLACE A FENG SHUI MAKEOVER.

it was a sign sewn with sequins, and i happen to adore both veryvery much!

so, dear ban.do, i am sharing the shui behind 11 of your wildly inspiring and winning 2018 prompts!

adopt a pet. living things are one of the best energy enhancers in the game, so find a “you-complete-me” fur baby, keep her good and healthy, and her good cheer will be a happiness fertilizer!

buy a disco ball. pleasepleaseplease do! but if you can’t, hang a man-made crystal in a window so it can sparkle in the sun, scattering light like a disco ball. light changes energy in an instant, and it feels like a jolt of va-va to the voom!

try a new lipstick color. i am especially fond of bright red lipstick. with a kaleidoscope of options, there is a hue ready to rekindle your spark in a snap. so, strut a new shade of daring pink lippy or find another feverish color to brighten your smile. what i know for sure is once you take the spectrum plunge, your mood will marvel!

donate those clothes you’ll never wear. if the clothes don’t fit or you’re hoping to fit into them again someday, give them away. you deserve to live in the glorious potency of right now.

perfect a family recipe. the kitchen is synonymous with wealth. why? the universe perceives us abundant when we feed and feast with others. and prosperity and luck find that arrangement mighty attractive. i can already hear the wolf whistles. even better? any good-spirited gathering kicks low vibe tail out of your space. bottom line: happy faces equal happy spaces.

add some plants to your décor. plants + flowers do all sorts of fancy talking in a home, improving the quality of our well-being and harnessing ultra-replenishing energy. and when they are well taken care of, plants are the gift that keeps on giving. so, grow a green thumb and go for it!

play the drums. sound shepherds perky energy into our space and keeps it from wandering away. so, whether you put the playlist on repeat; hum while busting through those ordinary chores; or play those bongos – just because you can – good energy will follow the beat in her feet right to you!

make your desk look extra cute. a desk is a representation of how well we support our own success. so, consider it a worthy transaction to find a desk that delights you. and then, my pretties, please remember this: even necessity deserves to feel beautiful. buy the blooms weekly, splurge on the fancy stapler, make that lamp a love light; and above all else, keep it clean.

plan that trip you’ve always wanted to take. once upon a time, travel wasn’t in my forecast. i didn’t have the budget. free time wasn’t sitting around in wads, begging me to use it. and the opportunities weren’t necessarily presenting themselves either. when i look back at pictures of our home now, i see subtle changes in how i anchored the possibility of travel into our environment. i loaded up the belief travel would happen through a careful selection of things — travel books, maps, globes, and canvassed art. eventually, the desire merged into my reality, and i traveled to Paris. Madrid. London. Copenhagen. Prague. Marrakech. and… those metaphors still do the heavy lifting, satisfying my wanderlust every year.

go through some old photos. we like to nurture our nostalgia, clinging to it like it’s the only proof of our experiences. memories are what we carry with us, and it is only the memory that bestows meaning on our things. so, hold onto what you really love. but if the memorabilia is stored in the basement or a shoe box, consider why you’re keeping it. and if that answer doesn’t bring you joy, give yourself permission to make space for new memories.

make a list of what you’re grateful for. we experience the world how we perceive it, so we cannot possibly create more good things in our lives without an awareness of our blessings. gratitude will always be a cornerstone of a prosperous life. and a daily gratitude chat helps sweep away the accumulation of mental clutter that might be blocking you from seeing all the good things right in front of you. make a list of all the people and things in your life that bring you joy. add to this list your talents and strengths. give thanks. every day. revere this list as your real wealth portfolio, and as life brings you more of anything swell, add to it!

xo

simple shui | cue the life refresh

metaphors.

they are all around you – especially in your home – and they are rather revealing about what is happening in your life right now.

this is why i am unflinching about shui not being something you choose to do; if you have stuff + space, shui is happening all around you.

and because environmental metaphor is an uncomplicated way to use your voice in a complicated world, it’s like having a marquee declare your intentions.

here’s how it works:

  1. your house is the narrator, so what does each thing say to you?
  2. you are the observer, so what are your first impressions?
  3. if you feel aligned with what your things say about you, revisit this exercise when you are ready to change or improve something in your life. if you aren’t swept off your feet with what’s happening around you, it’s time to play with some better metaphors.
  4. what do you desire in your life? find something that matches that idea or goal, and give it good geography. now, here’s the magic rub: every time you are in its vicinity, your subconscious is reminded of your intentions. and what you think about, you bring about. so, shui is about giving your house a piece of your mind now so it brings you peace of mind later!

and because a little visual inspo can make all the difference when you’re first improvising, here is a look inside a few metaphors at play in our home:

with so much to digest on the daily, simplicity is the only way to begin and end my day. work + demands + noise live elsewhere. what we see when we wake up and before we go to bed is sacred space – it bookends everything else in our lives. so, for me, nothing excessive or burdensome is allowed here. as for the prints, there are two – the number that nourishes relationship energy. and the feathers? they remind me help is always in the wings, and they send me into the world trusting my own wings work, too.

 

rose quartz + Buddha + orchids + hahahha equals love, life, laughter. we like to keep all 3 on steady tap around here.

 

ghandi once said, “our contribution to the progress of the world must consist in setting our own house in order.” this evokes all the amens from me. i don’t think world peace is lurking around the corner, but i do believe there is proof of its possibility in ordinary moments every day. so this metaphor reminds me to not seek all the answers, but rather remain open to what i don’t know – the possibilities, the potential, and the purpose of being here on the planet right now.

 

one of the things i LOVE most in our home is the representation of voices that hold space on our shelves and in our conversations. we are all voracious readers, but important books deserve prominence. all the validation i will ever need came home with a lovely the other day. “we watched a TED talk in class, and our teacher asked if we knew the speaker. i raised my hand and said her books are all over our house.” yes, chimamanda rules around here along with an entire palette of voices and opinions for progress and peace.

 

finally, you know my LOVE for rituals – they are the thread and needle of my day. every morning, i light 9 red candles + set my intentions + light some palo santo + pull daily inspo before writing. all of it weighty in meaning. the metaphor here, though, is the hand – it nudges me to ask for cosmic help and reminds me the source of spirit is unlimited.

 

ideally, we want to look around us at any given moment and say “this house is SO me/us.” there is always an invitation to hit the refresh button in the spaces we live and work, so whenever you feel the call to plant new intentions and rally cosmic support, find a metaphor you LOVE and let it live with you!

xo