simple shui | how it all began + a BIG announcement

because my current home is what got me into all of this in the first place, how about we begin there?

up until a few weeks past my 32nd birthday, i leaned into decisions cerebrally. i had a thing for hard proof – it furnished me a sense of control. so when we stepped into our new home and nothing felt right, i heaped blame on the recent move. months later, though, those swishy whispers were screaming. our home catered well to our needs, but i couldn’t get comfortable. even worse, i felt stuck. and as a stay-at-home mama to full-throttle 3-year-olds, i couldn’t muster the energy to combat crawl my way onto higher ground.

like so many others, i had read The Secret and wanted to believe i could change my life with a few, well-rounded affirmations. but in this particular moment of need, i was coming up short. on the edge of a really bad day, i grabbed my copy and treated it like an oracle – superstitiously summoning an answer.

letting the book fall open, i saw two words: FENG SHUI.

i’d heard those words before, although i’d never put my fingerprints on them. the whole idea sounded too good to be true and totally woo. i required logic and solid facts. but i sensed something was different about us in this new house. since the move, our financial obligations had increased, leaving our resources without any elasticity. the stress was strangling all hope, and our marriage bore the marks.

so, in that precise moment, i paused, “what could it hurt if i tried feng shui?”

with a healthy skepticism, i began a search online.

my house is already in a state of feng shui? what the. . .i don’t even *do* feng shui. this makes no sense.

my utter lack of understanding delivered a curious surge of energy, and with it, i read my first feng shui book. and with our financial “cushion” threadbare, my focus was easy: money, money, money.

first on my feng shui list: buy fresh flowers. it felt incredibly self-indulgent, so i bought the cheapest blooms i could find. a few weeks later, i purchased a water fountain. i had steep reservations about the cost, but this feng shui “cure” promised quick results. my final touch was adding purple – the color feng shui associates with wealth – in our kitchen. i put purple Sharpies in a drawer; i kept African violets on the dining table (still do); and i taped purple construction paper on the underneath side of our kitchen table.

(yes, i am totally serious about the construction paper.)

i continued making home improvements. i replaced burned out lightbulbs, pruned our front yard, and threw away incriminating clutter. feng shui was an addictive distraction – there was always something to do. within a few months, my husband had accepted a new job with a reassuring raise, and we found a preschool with openings for the girls. best of all – our home was feeling less like a stranger in our lives.

full stop.

was this a lucky coincidence or. . .

was feng shui actually working?

success leaves clues. and every shui suggestion i followed was acknowledged with synchronicity – like love winks from the Universe. the kind of woo-woo that left me wondering if i was maybe interpreting everything as a sign. good vibes were hatching in our nest, but we still had an overhaul of fixes. so, i threw myself into reading more and forecasting another round of changes.

we painted walls.

we hung photos and artwork on those freshly lacquered walls.

and, we finally agreed on a plan for our still unpacked office. as we were putting those affairs in order, my attention was still tangled up in our finances. sitting at my new desk, i sent three “cold” emails to local PR companies. within a week, those three responses blossomed into three interviews. a few weeks later, i had a part-time freelance gig i could do from home.

feng shui appeared bulletproof, and i wanted in.

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this is an excerpt from my workbook LIVE WITH WHAT YOU LOVE. a year later, i am still celebrating it along with CLUTTER IS NOT LOVE and CREATING SACRED SPACE. i wrote them for me. for you. and for our homes. they’re progressive. practical. and pitch perfect for wherever you are in life because simple shui is an everyday way of being. and the curated ideas + suggestions are *the* starter kit for anyone looking to confidently shui.

as for that BIG announcement. . .

three new workbooks are swirling, and i can barely contain the details + delights that await! these workbooks delve deeper into shui, but their magic will be most potent when you have an understanding of the LOVE, CLUTTER, and SPACE CLEARING fundamentals. so, get your starter kit + follow its thread so you can step into the sheer velocity of these new workbooks! and for those of you who already have your bundle, thank you! it makes me light up like a thousand suns having your support + feeling that LOVE!

xo

 

simple shui | what’s your exit strategy?

got clutter?

if yes, tell me: what’s your exit strategy?

after years of consults and seeing the accumulation of possessions in every home {mine included!}, i know that our stuff isn’t delivering what we really want: time and space. yet, we spend our hard earned dollars on things. things that promise happiness, eventually become clutter, and leave us feeling overwhelmed by the suffocating presence of it all.

sure, we say we might need it…

or think it might be worth something…

or believe we are going to get around to using it…

yet, does it go untouched?

when our stuff sits neglected or unwanted, it creates a low vibe energy.

want to take a guess how that makes you feel?

tired. ashamed. confused. distracted. stuck. disorganized. congested. overwhelmed. indifferent. dull.

and too much time around those fellas, and low vibes will definitely deplete you. i think we are all deserving of something much better than that — don’t you?

if we perceive struggle, we experience struggle. but when we clear through the ambivalence of it all and let go of the clutter, we get clear about our priorities + purpose. we get better at setting boundaries. we learn to prioritize ourselves simply by prioritizing our space. and when we perceive order + beauty, it feels like a slice of paradise.

which is why kristen finch and i are pulling our uncluttered series out of the vault! and we are hosting a FREE webinar Friday (may 5th, m’loves!) to talk all about this 21-day course. this conversation will help widen your understanding about what your things are saying about you + how they are impacting everything in your life. so, if you’ve been craving resolution + zest + contentment + purpose, this is for YOU.

clutter absorbs all that energy that moves us into new directions – opportunities + adventures + LOVE – so don’t let it take another thing from you. hop over here, sign up, and let’s get you back to good!

xo

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simple shui | learning vs. living shui

in my early days of shui, i heard a story that went something like this…

forever ago, there was a gang of DEEP thinkers who noticed luck was something not everybody enjoyed.

they plunged into a lifelong inquiry, carefully noticing how life and the cosmos cooperated.

these philosophers realized the natural environment plays to patterns. and since they believed everything is connected, they pondered the possibilities to influence + improve one’s luck.

when a seed lands in fertile soil and that patch of land has the luck of sunshine, water, and protection, it thrives. likewise, if we plant ourselves in the best possible surroundings, we align ourselves with wealth, health, and happiness.

that’s how we get lucky.

think about it — when we plant something and it struggles, we don’t blame the plant. we consider everything else first, right? soil quality; how much water it’s getting/not getting; the amount of light it receives. . .

but when we struggle, our self-criticisms have us immediately ravaging ourselves inside out.

take a deep breath.

and ask yourself: what if everything around you is an invitation, an opportunity to guide the energy and your life toward something more positive?

this is HOW shui helps. first and foremost, shui is about empowerment – your space is an opportunity to influence what is happening in your life right now. physically. professionally. personally. PROFOUNDLY.

but like learning any new skill, it requires honest participation.

last week, i wrapped up a course on the 5 elements. and some of you are wondering if you’re “getting” it as you make new moves in your space. a few of you are doubting your own intuition — because you can’t make logical sense of HOW it helps. the cerebral is insisting on explanations.

here’s what i want to tell you:

shui is how the universe makes sense of things, and she thinks so much differently than you or i. and that’s a good thing, i promise. trust the simple, direct FEELINGS — that’s shui pulling you.

stoke the fire in your belly. it’s time to be gutsy and honest about what you do and don’t LOVE anymore. you can’t hide anything in shui, so be willing to let things go. clutter will hold you in a pattern of struggle like nothing else. if you’ve got some, you now have a starting point. dorothy parker once said, “it’s not the tragedies that kill us, it’s the messes.”

finally, surrender your need to know HOW the magic works. our gloating ego will over-promise and under-deliver. our job, as i see it, is to keep a positive attitude while staying neutral with our expectations. with that said, know the universe over-delivers if you step toward her. in all my experience, shui is how you play YOUR game and win. but you have to be willing to trust it and dive deep.

honor the process + its pace.

see the beauty already around you — and cultivate its delight daily.

and discover what shui can teach you as you walk into it. you’ve done the learning for now; it’s time to LIVE it, love.

xo

p.s. if you don’t already, follow me here + let’s keep the element conversation going! also, i have one more stop open on my simple shui road tour, so let’s connect if you’d fancy simple shui in your nook!

 

 

 

simple shui | it’s not my clutter!

i hear it often. “i’m not the problem; it’s my spouse//my kids//my parents//my roommates. they’re the hoarders, not me.”

it usually continues with, “i have systems. i keep things clean. i try, but she/he/they won’t listen.”

which leads to this question: “can feng shui help?”

listen, i hear you + i feel you. i live with 3 other people who all have their own systems + ideas of what tidy looks and feels like. and it doesn’t always jive with my preferences.

so, my answer comes from personal experience + errors. i’ve both earned and learned (the hard way many times) to trust the shui and get outta its way.

and here’s what i know for sure:

you cannot ‘shui’ other people without their permission, even your kids if they older than 10. this is why shui and organizing are very different practices. shui is an intentional + intuitive process, and you can’t set intentions for someone else. capice?

if you live with a clutter bug, shui your own personal spaces – again, this isn’t about organizing. it is about mindfully upgrading the energy around you, so clear the clutter + work your shui + set intentions + give gratitude. it feels like a small practice, but it’s crazy powerful for improving the energy around us and the experiences we attract. and that one undeniable change is highly contagious and influential to those watching you. and believe me, you are being watched.

 

clutter is about boundaries. and sometimes the neatest people can be emotionally cluttered. so, if you are well-organized but live with a clutter bug, my suggestion is honestly explore if the ‘mess’ is a reflection of something cluttered within you – disappointment, weak boundaries, indecisiveness, or lingering issues. when we resolve our own emotional clutter, the ‘outside’ begins to match how we now feel on the ‘inside’.

not all clutter is created equally – which is why there isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution. our things represent emotions + thoughts + memories. women tend to explore and expunge emotions more frequently – let’s call it familiar curriculum for us. men, however, hold those same emotions in their things. this is why men sometimes resist letting things go. how do we help? talk about your expectations as you purge your excess, and then patiently let the results speak for themselves. meanwhile, ask him about the things he holds onto. listen to the stories, if he opens up. oftentimes, that emotional release is a turning point so he, too, can edit his things comfortably.

xo

 

p.s. if you’d like the gab + guidance to get your life clutter free, check out my workbooks. you are what you see, so if you want to see change inside twenty-seventeen, don’t wait a single second longer!

also, i am thinking about offering a course or online group mid-year for those who’d like to incorporate shui into what they already do — kind of a shui 101 for coaches, teachers, leaders, and all other supernovas who put LOVE into the world. i have NO details yet, so tell me: does this tickle your brain? if YESSS, send me a quick note!

finally, my simple shui road tour trips to North Carolina in April and the Big Apple in May are stretching at the seams — and love beams, i am SO excited! thank you for inviting me into your communities + homes, and i can hardly wait to make shui magic with you. if you are in either city and would like to have a consult or schedule a meet-up, let me know ASAP and i’ll get you the details!

 

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simple shui | a party raid

hello + happy december, m’loves!

MindBodyGreen recently invited me to share a process that people could easily follow to de-clutter their living room relatively quickly. and since this request coincides with high-spirited celebrations + merrymaking in the forecast, i concocted a simple pre-party shui sweep that’ll leave you plenty of time to put on that party dress! you ready, soul shine?

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  1. divide your living space into 4 quadrants. does one look more cluttered or out of balance than the others? if so, begin there.
  2. grab a box, and remove every other thing (not holiday related, if the house is festively dressed) from the shelves and tables. side note: if you’re struggling with fatigue and overwhelm on the daily, keep that little box of goods tucked away for a week. too much stuff in a room can be a slow but steady juice drain. after one week’s reprieve, only return what you would buy again.
  3. sift through those piles of books + magazines. if it unleashes high octane happiness, keep it. but if it barely registers a pulse, get rid of it. when we hoard other people’s thoughts and ideas, we have a murky time discerning our own inner wisdom. so, let it go and your voice will flow!
  4. finally, quickly dust the area.
  5. go back to step 1, and repeat through the remaining 3 quadrants.
  6. BONUS TIP: simmer some orange rinds + cloves + cinnamon while you shimmy around — it’s the motivation brew that keeps our energy percolating!

xo

 

p.s. interested in simple shui coming to your nook of the woods in 2017? read more here! wisco, the big apple, south carolina, and utah are ready to shui party — the question is: are you? i have one more spot. . .

p.p.s. feeling the pull to sift through your things and finally be outrageously open? i couldn’t think of a better way to kick off 2017! leap into a head start by buying one, two, or the bundle of simple shui workbooks for yourself — a little work now, and you could rocket to the moon with the energy you discover. because when we keep things simple, possibilities open up! and these workbooks are a perfect guide to get a new story started. . .

 

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