simple shui | these bedroom cures are everything

malcolm gladwell said, “anyone who has ever scanned the bookshelves of a new girlfriend or boyfriend – or peeked inside her or his medicine cabinet – understands this implicitly; you can learn as much – or more – from one glance at a private space as you can from hours of exposure to a public face.”

i find this to be exceptionally true. whether a bedroom is cluttered, reflective of only one partner’s personality + preferences, or the room with the least proof of devotion in a house, these choices are very revealing. because a bedroom tells me within a glance what you think you’re worth.

let’s talk about the trinity within this sacred space – SLEEP + STILLNESS + SENSUALITY. when we devote to these, our bedrooms feel magnificent and that transcends into the world LOVING us back, beloveds.

so, where to start?

SIMPLIFY. the focus of our bedroom deserves to be the bed. not the TV. or the treadmill. or the dresser. without the distractions, our bed feels welcoming and that harnesses the best energy for our exclusive benefit. simplify your space and watch your life expand.

SPLURGE. if ever there is an excuse to INDULGE, this is it! the two biggest investments i made in our bedroom were the linen headboard + bed and our linen sheets. now, i know the kneejerk response is “I don’t have the money to splurge.” truth? i didn’t either when i made the decision, but quality isn’t impulsive – it’s intentional. and sometimes that means intentionally saving money and watching for a good sale. all you have to do is make the commitment, and your hot little heart will be in pursuit of the perfect thing to set your soul on fire!

and before you hop over the whole headboard idea, if you feel at all alone. . .

or without reliable support in your life. . .

or your sense of self + inner strength is compromised. . .

BUY THE HEADBOARD. headboards are a powerful metaphor of support. and if you’re shopping for one, a solid headboard is most ideal. slatted boards can create a sense of separation from our beloved. however, if this is the headboard you’ve got, here’s a simple cure: tie a ribbon around the two middle vertical bars and you’ll unite any sense of division.

LET LOVE RULE. when confronted with i-can’t-find-my-person woes, i ask one simple Q: tell me about your room. usually something in the bedroom unwittingly anchors strong single energy. common culprits i’ve encountered: photos of a client by herself; silhouette art; a single bedside table; a bed pushed up against the wall, signifying one person’s side of the bed. you feel me, right? if you want partnership, express that all around you in the bedroom. and, top if off with a pair of rose quartz – the crystal with an affinity for LOVE energy. meow!

HOLD SPACE FOR HARMONY. round shapes promote fluid communication + healthy relationships, so i am all about curvy lamps, drum lampshades, round candles, deep button tufts on furniture, circle rugs, a bowl with a few round stones. . . whatever feels right to you.

TREASURE YOURSELF. think of wind and water – especially during a summer drought. water becomes stagnant and unsafe, eventually drying up. without wind, the air is stifling. those energy qualities are mimicked in a room where clutter convenes. in our bedrooms, this specifically translates into waking up groggy and never quite refreshed. and, when we’ve been sick, it can interfere with our ability to rebound back to good health. a good rule of thumb is if energy can’t fully circulate, our energy suffers.

a luxurious bedroom is not synonymous with expensive or spacious; rather, it is about drenching this sacred space with beauty the way you see it. when we choose to love our bedroom, it makes an irrepressible statement that we prioritize our own felicity. little by little, this kind of steady living has a cumulative effect. and in a room that nourishes sleeping deeper and waking more refreshed, we find ourselves – mind, body, and spirit – restored.

xo

simple shui | Q + A

“What feng shui advice would you suggest if someone has the following amount to spend: $10, $75, or $150?”

 

$10: wander into a local grocer and check out the fresh flower selection. there are often a variety of bouquets priced for less than $10. flowers aren’t waiting for someone who “deserves” them; they are there for whomever is willing to allow beauty in their lives. so, decide what you’re comfortable spending, and simply go look. shui loves to play this game, and there is usually a bundle priced perfectly for you!

$75: the front door is where we entice auspicious energy into our homes. and to be clear, this is the architecturally-intended front door of a house. energy goes where the eye does so it’s worth the endeavor to make the entrance entrancing. it is the simplest way to invite promising opportunities into our lives. guaranteed. 💕💕💕

easy upgrades: replace any burned out lights with brighter wattage. wipe down the door and its hardware. buy a new doormat, or shake out the one you currently use. change the doorbell! infuse the front path/porch with color and fragrance. pathways are analogous to opportunities finding their way to us, and healthy plants or bright flowers elevate beauty and suggest good health. maintain both, and it’s a magnetic invitation to whatever you desire welcoming in your life. hang a wind chime — when the wind blows, the pirouetting rods harness invisible and wildly good energy for you. and as the wind chime sings, it draws attention to the space, inviting more opportunities in your life.

$150: when we leave the same stuff on our walls for years and become numb to the feeling they generate, the walls lack that aliveness they once had – and that contributes to how you feel. take everything off the walls at least once a year, let the space breathe, and decide what you want to put back. and if your gallery is growing lackluster, it is time for change! be gutsy. make a statement. say something controversial. rethink those first impressions. there is inexhaustible magic in the joy we feel seeing something new and different – a single glance creating a visceral response that ripples positive energy around us.. xo

simple shui | happy halloween

if you haven’t joined the simple shui™ party happening on alexa + amazon, it’s time to moonwalk over and join me! i am sharing shui tricks + treats + truths you want! you need!! you can’t live without – haha!!! so, how about a whiff of the shui being served daily  – and just in time for Halloween!

this ditty i found in my notes from a call years ago with my mentor and friend, ellen. once upon a time, my lovelies would be so scared to go out on Halloween night, so she told me to send them trick-or-treating with a favorite piece of clothing underneath their costumes. simple and it reinforces feeling safe from all the things going bump in the night! if you want to mom-ify this a little more, encourage yours to choose something in a light color to balance out the dark palette and gestures of this holiday.

salt is one of nature’s most yang elements – and it offers protection from unwanted energy. so, whether it is at a festive party or on Halloween night, salt is a good thing to have on hand when good and questionable energies collide. instead of simply leaving bowls of salt out, however, let’s make this more glamorous. use himalayan salt candle holders to set the mood and keep negative ions (nature’s feel good vibes!) floating through the air! #winwinwin

wealth begins with a consciousness of abundance. you have to see it to receive it, so use the excuse of candy season to stock up on + hand out gold covered chocolate coins! how’s that for delicious and auspicious?

yang energy creates movement and action – so, it can speed up what we are seeking to manifest in our lives. and if you’re a destination spot for trick-or-treaters, your house will be the lucky recipient of super duper yang energy. however, if there is clutter in your space, it will absorb that reinvigorated energy that knows how to move you in new directions – opportunities + adventures + LOVE. what to do? give your house a quick clean before the doorbell rings and the good energy bling will be all yours!

finally, this simple shui™ tip has mileage all year long, lovies! after any holiday travel or vacation, you want to yank up (yang up) energy in your house. when we are away, the energy in our space gets quiet, settled, and a little too still because nothing is happening. upon your return, make like a gust of wind and turn the faucets on; open the windows; tune into some music; and stoke the stove or oven to get energy back on her feet and moving on your behalf. a quick on + off is all you need to wake the space up! remember, moving energy equals prosperous energy, so this shui guarantees high fives + smiles 8 days a week!

xo

simple shui | give your place a feng shui makeover

i am a ban.do devotee. i LOVE their agendas – every single one has mapped my forecast, fortressed my dreams, and retired as a snapshot of everything that happened in my life that year. naturally, i turned my lovelies onto them, too. which is why you’ll understand how it felt like kismet when – in our different corners on an ordinary day – we all noticed the last weekly inspo in our 2018 planners:

GIVE YOUR PLACE A FENG SHUI MAKEOVER.

it was a sign sewn with sequins, and i happen to adore both veryvery much!

so, dear ban.do, i am sharing the shui behind 11 of your wildly inspiring and winning 2018 prompts!

adopt a pet. living things are one of the best energy enhancers in the game, so find a “you-complete-me” fur baby, keep her good and healthy, and her good cheer will be a happiness fertilizer!

buy a disco ball. pleasepleaseplease do! but if you can’t, hang a man-made crystal in a window so it can sparkle in the sun, scattering light like a disco ball. light changes energy in an instant, and it feels like a jolt of va-va to the voom!

try a new lipstick color. i am especially fond of bright red lipstick. with a kaleidoscope of options, there is a hue ready to rekindle your spark in a snap. so, strut a new shade of daring pink lippy or find another feverish color to brighten your smile. what i know for sure is once you take the spectrum plunge, your mood will marvel!

donate those clothes you’ll never wear. if the clothes don’t fit or you’re hoping to fit into them again someday, give them away. you deserve to live in the glorious potency of right now.

perfect a family recipe. the kitchen is synonymous with wealth. why? the universe perceives us abundant when we feed and feast with others. and prosperity and luck find that arrangement mighty attractive. i can already hear the wolf whistles. even better? any good-spirited gathering kicks low vibe tail out of your space. bottom line: happy faces equal happy spaces.

add some plants to your décor. plants + flowers do all sorts of fancy talking in a home, improving the quality of our well-being and harnessing ultra-replenishing energy. and when they are well taken care of, plants are the gift that keeps on giving. so, grow a green thumb and go for it!

play the drums. sound shepherds perky energy into our space and keeps it from wandering away. so, whether you put the playlist on repeat; hum while busting through those ordinary chores; or play those bongos – just because you can – good energy will follow the beat in her feet right to you!

make your desk look extra cute. a desk is a representation of how well we support our own success. so, consider it a worthy transaction to find a desk that delights you. and then, my pretties, please remember this: even necessity deserves to feel beautiful. buy the blooms weekly, splurge on the fancy stapler, make that lamp a love light; and above all else, keep it clean.

plan that trip you’ve always wanted to take. once upon a time, travel wasn’t in my forecast. i didn’t have the budget. free time wasn’t sitting around in wads, begging me to use it. and the opportunities weren’t necessarily presenting themselves either. when i look back at pictures of our home now, i see subtle changes in how i anchored the possibility of travel into our environment. i loaded up the belief travel would happen through a careful selection of things — travel books, maps, globes, and canvassed art. eventually, the desire merged into my reality, and i traveled to Paris. Madrid. London. Copenhagen. Prague. Marrakech. and… those metaphors still do the heavy lifting, satisfying my wanderlust every year.

go through some old photos. we like to nurture our nostalgia, clinging to it like it’s the only proof of our experiences. memories are what we carry with us, and it is only the memory that bestows meaning on our things. so, hold onto what you really love. but if the memorabilia is stored in the basement or a shoe box, consider why you’re keeping it. and if that answer doesn’t bring you joy, give yourself permission to make space for new memories.

make a list of what you’re grateful for. we experience the world how we perceive it, so we cannot possibly create more good things in our lives without an awareness of our blessings. gratitude will always be a cornerstone of a prosperous life. and a daily gratitude chat helps sweep away the accumulation of mental clutter that might be blocking you from seeing all the good things right in front of you. make a list of all the people and things in your life that bring you joy. add to this list your talents and strengths. give thanks. every day. revere this list as your real wealth portfolio, and as life brings you more of anything swell, add to it!

xo

simple shui | a thousand thanks

i’ve spent this year occupying two worlds:  my own space of magic-making and shui-shaking, and a collective upwelling of adrenaline and despair to everything happening around us.

if you’re anywhere in the same situ-nario (a term coined by the lovelies), you’re feeling it, too. the mother, the neighbor, the daughter, the wife, the student, the boss-babe, and the lover in me are all so very tired. so, my rituals have been more important than ever before. one, rituals are unfailing because they’re always a good idea when we don’t know what else to do. two, rituals shift our power back into the present. three, rituals carefully untangle our intentions from circumstances. we might not have control over what’s happening in the world, but we can always guide how we show up in it.

so, today is a gratitude shout out.

despite having every self-doubt + concern this year as i talk shui WHILE wondering if the sky is falling, i keep coming back to this:

 

artists need to create on the same scale that society has the capacity to destroy.

{lauren bon}

 

which is will i keep shui-ing like i mean it. and on that note, let the gratitude parade commence:

i am wide-eyed with gratitude to be asked by architectural digest to talk shui for their new site clever. i mean, for the love of it all, ARCHITECTURAL DIGEST!

 

Peters advises moving 27 items in your home when it’s feeling stale: “This little ditty shakes loose that unwelcome familiarity and it is so easy. Throw a rug into a different room or… switch out the summer magazines for a stack of cookbooks.” This frees up chi to move about your home so that it doesn’t get stuck among items you’ve gotten so accustomed to that you don’t even notice them anymore. Why 27 items, you ask? “The short answer—it’s a shui thing,” says Peters. “Twenty-seven is [a multiple of] the number 9, the number representing power, manifestation, and completion.” Bonus: You don’t need to add or buy anything.

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and i feel every shade of delight to learn i have been featured over at mydomaine several times this month – there is nothing but glimmer + sparkle on my face for unexpected surprises like this!

Feng shui consultant Amanda Gibby Peters of Simple Shui recently revealed how one common household item could be upping your bedroom’s energy flow and thereby wreaking havoc on your sleep. “If you have trouble sleeping, let’s talk about why that mirror on your bedroom wall might be the culprit,” says Peters. According to feng shui beliefs, mirrors increase energy flow, and this increased energy can disrupt sleep. Before completely overhauling your bedroom décor, Peters advises testing out a quick fix to determine whether it’s your mirrors that are to blame for your poor sleep. “Cover the bedroom mirror(s) for a couple nights and notice if your sleep improves,” she advises. “if you do sleep soundly with them covered, consider replacing them with someone else you love—a large print, a mural, or even a few mounted lanterns.” For those who simply can’t bring themselves to relocate their bedroom mirror, Peters explains that it’s best to “hang it on a non-facing wall when you’re tucked in bed.”

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i’ve spent the month somersaulting + squealing because every morning, i ask alexa for my feng shui news flash and hear her share simple shui™ tips! if you’re not getting yours, now is the time because there’s plenty more in the forecast!

“if you’ve been caught off guard by gossip, gourds are your go-to solution. place them by your front door to trap that negative energy and open up space enough for you to respond rather than react.”

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and any day i am featured over at mindbodygreen sparks a soul fire for me – because my body of work there feels like an intimate gathering of my words + shui suggestions for our homes, our havens, and our happiness.

“Mirrors literally and metaphorically double what they reflect, so it’s worth your extra mile to LOVE what it ‘sees’. A mirror over the mantle might make an impressive style statement, but if it’s reflecting a neglected corner in your house, that feeling is likely being ‘doubled’ in your life. Likewise, the front hall mirror is always a lovely gesture unless it’s showcasing a pit stop of mail, shoes, and clutter. And if your bedroom is a catch all for work, laundry, and things-without-homes – and your mirror reflects it all – you likely wake up feeling buried alive before the day begins. Bottom line: mine and mind the details of what your mirrors reflect.”

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as i exhale, twenty eighteen is already in the works – workshops, new offerings, and simple shui in more places than ever before. and none of it is possible or merry without having the support + encouragement of YOU. thank you for carrying the shui torches and lighting the world with what we learn together. thank you for every question + comment sent my way, keeping my fire well-fueled. thank you for buying the workbooks + working 1:1 with me – every single purchase lights my disco ball, and i carry a forever crush for every single client of mine. thank you for jumping into the workshops this year – our work inspired me to be bolder + better + braver. thank you for reading what i write, but even better – weaving the shui into your homes and offices. whenever i think of good energy being cultivated + carefully plotted around the world, it sends a reassuring tingle down my spine. simple shui is breathing new life and building bridges that will bear even more shui because of YOU! so, a thousand thanks + all of my LOVE! all ways + always. xo