simple shui | a trip like never before

you guys.

i am sitting here this morning in wide-eyed gratitude, delighting in + appreciating fully + reflecting on one of the most wonder-filled, reassuring, and powerful experiences of my life – the simple shui road tour.

and my LOVE is running deep: for the women + men who said YES and made it all fall into line like magic. for the cities + sanctuaries + homes i was graciously welcomed into with wide arms. and for the conversations and stories and delicious company around every corner.

perhaps the biggest takeaway from my road tour is that the only bad question ever is the one that goes unasked. because each trip – and the darlings i connected with along the way – happened when i plunged forward into the unknown with a mighty BIG ask: let’s meet up in your town and talk shui, shall we?

it was the boldest Q i have swung out into the world in a long while, and my little adventure turned out the most incredible invites + insights. but instead of me wrapping my words around what i experienced, here’s a sliver of what i’ve been hearing ever since…

“i had a wonderful time last week and i’m SO thankful you came to visit – i wish i could replay it all over again!”

“thanks again for taking this leap of faith! it was well worth it and the result has deeply touched many people. i hope you are feeling more certain than ever that shui does matter. it matters very much just as your beautiful unique contributions to the world matter. keep at it!”

 

“it was pure magic welcoming you into our coven! thank you again for making the trip!”

“just, wow. what an absolute joy to have you over yesterday and then to get to meet over drinks! we feel BEYOND lucky to have you in our corner and had the loveliest time with you last night. we could have gone on for hours, but instead i’ll put out big time vibes for a fall visit!”

 

 

“i had a great time, and my head is spinning with excitement – thanks again! wowed by your knowledge!”

“i just spent five days with amanda gibby peters and she BLEW MY MIND.”

i feel the same way about YOU!

your words + kindness give me all the feels. so, to each of you + the universe + all that space between, thank you. thank you for embracing the shui. thank you for opening your worlds to me. and thank you for making me feel at home wherever i was. i am grateful. i feel abundant. and every minute of this experience was always more than enough.

so, we should do this again, yes?

xo

simple shui | how it all began + a BIG announcement

because my current home is what got me into all of this in the first place, how about we begin there?

up until a few weeks past my 32nd birthday, i leaned into decisions cerebrally. i had a thing for hard proof – it furnished me a sense of control. so when we stepped into our new home and nothing felt right, i heaped blame on the recent move. months later, though, those swishy whispers were screaming. our home catered well to our needs, but i couldn’t get comfortable. even worse, i felt stuck. and as a stay-at-home mama to full-throttle 3-year-olds, i couldn’t muster the energy to combat crawl my way onto higher ground.

like so many others, i had read The Secret and wanted to believe i could change my life with a few, well-rounded affirmations. but in this particular moment of need, i was coming up short. on the edge of a really bad day, i grabbed my copy and treated it like an oracle – superstitiously summoning an answer.

letting the book fall open, i saw two words: FENG SHUI.

i’d heard those words before, although i’d never put my fingerprints on them. the whole idea sounded too good to be true and totally woo. i required logic and solid facts. but i sensed something was different about us in this new house. since the move, our financial obligations had increased, leaving our resources without any elasticity. the stress was strangling all hope, and our marriage bore the marks.

so, in that precise moment, i paused, “what could it hurt if i tried feng shui?”

with a healthy skepticism, i began a search online.

my house is already in a state of feng shui? what the. . .i don’t even *do* feng shui. this makes no sense.

my utter lack of understanding delivered a curious surge of energy, and with it, i read my first feng shui book. and with our financial “cushion” threadbare, my focus was easy: money, money, money.

first on my feng shui list: buy fresh flowers. it felt incredibly self-indulgent, so i bought the cheapest blooms i could find. a few weeks later, i purchased a water fountain. i had steep reservations about the cost, but this feng shui “cure” promised quick results. my final touch was adding purple – the color feng shui associates with wealth – in our kitchen. i put purple Sharpies in a drawer; i kept African violets on the dining table (still do); and i taped purple construction paper on the underneath side of our kitchen table.

(yes, i am totally serious about the construction paper.)

i continued making home improvements. i replaced burned out lightbulbs, pruned our front yard, and threw away incriminating clutter. feng shui was an addictive distraction – there was always something to do. within a few months, my husband had accepted a new job with a reassuring raise, and we found a preschool with openings for the girls. best of all – our home was feeling less like a stranger in our lives.

full stop.

was this a lucky coincidence or. . .

was feng shui actually working?

success leaves clues. and every shui suggestion i followed was acknowledged with synchronicity – like love winks from the Universe. the kind of woo-woo that left me wondering if i was maybe interpreting everything as a sign. good vibes were hatching in our nest, but we still had an overhaul of fixes. so, i threw myself into reading more and forecasting another round of changes.

we painted walls.

we hung photos and artwork on those freshly lacquered walls.

and, we finally agreed on a plan for our still unpacked office. as we were putting those affairs in order, my attention was still tangled up in our finances. sitting at my new desk, i sent three “cold” emails to local PR companies. within a week, those three responses blossomed into three interviews. a few weeks later, i had a part-time freelance gig i could do from home.

feng shui appeared bulletproof, and i wanted in.

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this is an excerpt from my workbook LIVE WITH WHAT YOU LOVE. a year later, i am still celebrating it along with CLUTTER IS NOT LOVE and CREATING SACRED SPACE. i wrote them for me. for you. and for our homes. they’re progressive. practical. and pitch perfect for wherever you are in life because simple shui is an everyday way of being. and the curated ideas + suggestions are *the* starter kit for anyone looking to confidently shui.

as for that BIG announcement. . .

three new workbooks are swirling, and i can barely contain the details + delights that await! these workbooks delve deeper into shui, but their magic will be most potent when you have an understanding of the LOVE, CLUTTER, and SPACE CLEARING fundamentals. so, get your starter kit + follow its thread so you can step into the sheer velocity of these new workbooks! and for those of you who already have your bundle, thank you! it makes me light up like a thousand suns having your support + feeling that LOVE!

xo

 

simple shui | what’s your exit strategy?

got clutter?

if yes, tell me: what’s your exit strategy?

after years of consults and seeing the accumulation of possessions in every home {mine included!}, i know that our stuff isn’t delivering what we really want: time and space. yet, we spend our hard earned dollars on things. things that promise happiness, eventually become clutter, and leave us feeling overwhelmed by the suffocating presence of it all.

sure, we say we might need it…

or think it might be worth something…

or believe we are going to get around to using it…

yet, does it go untouched?

when our stuff sits neglected or unwanted, it creates a low vibe energy.

want to take a guess how that makes you feel?

tired. ashamed. confused. distracted. stuck. disorganized. congested. overwhelmed. indifferent. dull.

and too much time around those fellas, and low vibes will definitely deplete you. i think we are all deserving of something much better than that — don’t you?

if we perceive struggle, we experience struggle. but when we clear through the ambivalence of it all and let go of the clutter, we get clear about our priorities + purpose. we get better at setting boundaries. we learn to prioritize ourselves simply by prioritizing our space. and when we perceive order + beauty, it feels like a slice of paradise.

which is why kristen finch and i are pulling our uncluttered series out of the vault! and we are hosting a FREE webinar Friday (may 5th, m’loves!) to talk all about this 21-day course. this conversation will help widen your understanding about what your things are saying about you + how they are impacting everything in your life. so, if you’ve been craving resolution + zest + contentment + purpose, this is for YOU.

clutter absorbs all that energy that moves us into new directions – opportunities + adventures + LOVE – so don’t let it take another thing from you. hop over here, sign up, and let’s get you back to good!

xo

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a thousand thanks | marrakech on my mind

it’s been a week, and still, Marrakech is on my mind and the straight up magic of it all. like. . .

the endless twists and turns inside the souks. . .the stray cats. . .and the barrage of bold colors and noise refusing to be ignored.

 

the finesse of a good haggle + my celebratory squeals from the steals of deals i brokered! {it also sadly and forever rendered any sale i ever get here at home now lukewarm and flat.}

 

the square filled with spices + incense + oils + soap + dyes – a symphony of seduction to the senses. and every single thing that came home with me carries the vibrancy of this magical city.

 

the textiles + blankets + rugs + lanterns + baskets. and my mind + heart swamped, trying to decide what dangling treasures and evocative gems to squeeze into my suitcase.

 

afternoon meanderings through the pink-ish maze of the medina, possibly lost and hypnotized by the beauty while always (luckily!) hopping out of a zooming motorbike’s path just in time.

 

the ritual of prayer 5 times a day – a call echoing from towering speakers, quickly becoming an invitation to reconnect + recommit to gratitude. {although, truthfully, i never warmed to the 5:30-ish a.m. call. . .}.

HOT mint tea poured magnificently into beautifully etched glasses alongside sweet, savory treats.

jardin majorelle + yves st. laurent + all that blue. and i am only half-joking when i say it may be the tipping point to my own blue period. because my mind is whirring with ideas about saturating my walls, draping fabric, throwing down rugs to pop my world with cobalt.

 

 

 

our visit to the hamman and being led through a series of rooms, rituals, and relaxation. i was rubbed down with black soap, steamed, scrubbed thoroughly, covered in clay, and doused with water – followed up with the pampering of a fluffy robe, an enchanting room, and a cup of mint tea. ummm, yes, we could all get used to this.

and the doors. ALL THE DOORS. visual poetry and puh-lenty of inspo.

 

and then. . .

to be there among the sisterhood + soulful synergy of high priestesses. where we began each day with gala darling and guided meditations + cavernous soul journaling. . . and bid the day farewell with veronica varlow and her ancestral stories + candlelit rituals + personal revivals. . .

 

and to teach shui in a gorgeous riad where water was flowing, candles adorned the room, rose petals floated, and birdsong was swirling among a radiant femme squad. truly, this is a feeling i will savor forever. . .

 

and finally. . .

on our way home, an overnight stay in Madrid.

and chocolate and churros – need i say more?

walking the city late into the evening, people everywhere and the energy so becoming of us all.

honestly, i feel so luck struck. and with every trip i make, i think of shui. because it is how i aligned my wanderlust and reality. it is when these juicy, dripping-down-my-chin travels truly began. and it is why, should you ever wonder what shui will do for you, i will tell you it has the moxie + muscle to trigger capacious opportunities and sprinkle them all along your way. making your story the real love affair of your life.

xo

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simple shui | learning vs. living shui

in my early days of shui, i heard a story that went something like this…

forever ago, there was a gang of DEEP thinkers who noticed luck was something not everybody enjoyed.

they plunged into a lifelong inquiry, carefully noticing how life and the cosmos cooperated.

these philosophers realized the natural environment plays to patterns. and since they believed everything is connected, they pondered the possibilities to influence + improve one’s luck.

when a seed lands in fertile soil and that patch of land has the luck of sunshine, water, and protection, it thrives. likewise, if we plant ourselves in the best possible surroundings, we align ourselves with wealth, health, and happiness.

that’s how we get lucky.

think about it — when we plant something and it struggles, we don’t blame the plant. we consider everything else first, right? soil quality; how much water it’s getting/not getting; the amount of light it receives. . .

but when we struggle, our self-criticisms have us immediately ravaging ourselves inside out.

take a deep breath.

and ask yourself: what if everything around you is an invitation, an opportunity to guide the energy and your life toward something more positive?

this is HOW shui helps. first and foremost, shui is about empowerment – your space is an opportunity to influence what is happening in your life right now. physically. professionally. personally. PROFOUNDLY.

but like learning any new skill, it requires honest participation.

last week, i wrapped up a course on the 5 elements. and some of you are wondering if you’re “getting” it as you make new moves in your space. a few of you are doubting your own intuition — because you can’t make logical sense of HOW it helps. the cerebral is insisting on explanations.

here’s what i want to tell you:

shui is how the universe makes sense of things, and she thinks so much differently than you or i. and that’s a good thing, i promise. trust the simple, direct FEELINGS — that’s shui pulling you.

stoke the fire in your belly. it’s time to be gutsy and honest about what you do and don’t LOVE anymore. you can’t hide anything in shui, so be willing to let things go. clutter will hold you in a pattern of struggle like nothing else. if you’ve got some, you now have a starting point. dorothy parker once said, “it’s not the tragedies that kill us, it’s the messes.”

finally, surrender your need to know HOW the magic works. our gloating ego will over-promise and under-deliver. our job, as i see it, is to keep a positive attitude while staying neutral with our expectations. with that said, know the universe over-delivers if you step toward her. in all my experience, shui is how you play YOUR game and win. but you have to be willing to trust it and dive deep.

honor the process + its pace.

see the beauty already around you — and cultivate its delight daily.

and discover what shui can teach you as you walk into it. you’ve done the learning for now; it’s time to LIVE it, love.

xo

p.s. if you don’t already, follow me here + let’s keep the element conversation going! also, i have one more stop open on my simple shui road tour, so let’s connect if you’d fancy simple shui in your nook!