simple shui | 9 ways to shui when your funds are low

back in my early shui days, we were on a tight budget – which meant i didn’t have much wiggle room to make any major or costly improvements immediately. so, i feel each of you that message me about not having enough money coming in; trying to make ends meet; and wanting any *free* shui advice that will spruce up your green situation.

i’ve got good news: shui is possible on a tight budget because the most important factor behind its success is always YOU. if we practice shui out of desperation – thinking we must do *all the things* or doubting a cure’s prowess because it seems so simple or stomping our foot about the timing + delivery – our frustrated energy hops into the mix of shui’s magic. and let me tell you, this sends the universe all sorts of mixed signals. if you want to maximize any shui cure, do the work and give yourself over to the process because shui knows the way between point A and point YAY!

and because everyone deserves a little auspicious energy, i have a budget-friendly checklist for you! every single suggestion shared here is something i did as a newbie and still practice now. because simple shui is non-perishable, and its nectar is always sweet.

 

  1. showcase your intentions. our focus determines so much of where we end up, and given that the bedroom bookends our days, it is worth dressing these walls with LOVE. because everything i loved was out of my price range at the beginning of my shui sojourn, i wrote favorite song lyrics on poster board and hung them in over-sized frames – simple, inexpensive, and full of LOVE. plus, bonus points for original artwork! [poster board: $.49 | oversized frame: 24.99 | gold markers: $3.70 | total cost: $30]

 

  1. an apple a day… in shui, green is associated with new beginnings and bursting growth. it stimulates creativity. and my personal favorite, green strengthens will power. apples symbolize peace. and the kitchen swaggers with abundance possibility. so, whip it all together by keeping a bowl of green apples on the kitchen table, and watch prosperity + peace shimmy your way! [total cost: $2.99/bag]
  2. clean the oven. so not glamorous, right? but this appliance is a total drama queen when neglected. the stove and oven represent our wealth + well-being + prosperity – and who wants to entertain any melodramatics there? set yours on the self-cleaner, let the oven works its own magic, and then finish it with a quick wipe-down and polish. once it’s done {phew!}, prepare to hit new high notes! [oven cleaner: $4.19 | 6-pack of cleaning cloths: $7.31 | total cost: $11.50]
  3. keep the toilet seats down. first of all, it just spiffs up the bathroom. however, water represents fortune, and the shui rumor is if a toilet happens to be in the wrong spot, you’re flushing yo’ money down the drain, right? it’s not quite that severe; however, keep the lids down, and you’ll persuade your payday to stay above ground. [total cost: FREE]
  1. put thy stuff away, especially if it is on the floor. when things linger on the ground, their energy attracts yours downward, too. and that is such a cash crasher! if you are short on space, consider a few hooks. i have them everywhere. they are a great storage alternative; it keeps things we use regularly within reach; and most importantly, something on a hook means it’s not on the floor! and instead of drilling a hook into the door, try some double stick tape – works like a charm! [if you splurge on a fancier hook: $16 / traditional plastic hook: $6.18 | double stick tape: $6.04 | total cost: between $12 and $22]
  2. silence the squeaks. from hinges to floorboards to stairs, squeaking metaphorically represents constant complaining and ambivalence. a squeaky hinge indicates people in the home are fighting. and a squeaky floor or stair often signals insecurity. WD-40 and a few nails seem a simple solution for some serenity now! [WD-40: $4.35 | pack of nails: $5.99 | hammer: $5.59 | total cost: $16]
  3. flood your home with light. open the curtains/blinds so sunlight dapples in. turn on the lamps. light the candles. stoke the fire. light is fire, the element that represents nourishment + safety + warmth. and by stimulating fire, we replenish our inner radiance and spark – and that’s the kind of energy that will have you rising up and reaching new heights! [total cost: $1.99 (6-pack of candles)]

 

  1. get salty. whenever you don’t know what to do about low vibes + questionable energy, put out a bowl of sea salt for 24 hours. after 24 hours, toss the salt in an outside trash. salt possesses powerful cleansing properties, soaking up negative vibes. it’s easy + cheap + SUPER effective to use as often as needed. [total cost: $11.51 ( two 26-ounce containers)]
  2. go pro. a little shui metaphor has the power to take you to the top, especially if your career could use a lift off. two suggestons: photo #1 // look for anything taking off – ships, birds, a sunrise, hot air balloons – and your career will follow suit. photo #2 // if you feel like no one has your back, tape an image of a mountain to the back of your office chair. mountain imagery offers us support; it reminds us the climb toward any goal often involves contemplation; and it suggests we have access to higher insights. how’s that for climbing with confidence? [total cost: if you have a computer + paper + a printer, FREE!]

 

the very very very best part of all? you can stay right under $100 if you decide to tackle the entire list! HOLLA + high fives all around! my prices were resourced from Amazon and Target, unless otherwise noted; so, if you are a bargain babe, you might be able to score these magic-makers for less! now, go put the shui pedal to the metal, and cruise toward your something better!

xo

it’s time we let girls be girls

I had to explain ‘pussy’ to my lovely the other day.

Our conversation was the furthest thing from reassuring for a 13-year old GIRL.

As I attempted answering her questions, I found myself saying, “Because that’s the way things are…” too many times.

Seriously.

Try it.

Tell a young girl what locker room talk is or that ‘boys will be boys’ and – if you’re frank and honest – you’ll probably violate the notion of decency more than you ought to be comfortable with.

I’m not one for controversy. Or taking sides. I am rather comfortable in my convictions, and I rarely feel compelled to change someone’s mind because I know my decisions are not up for negotiation.

The thing is for 13 years, I have been consciously and painstakingly raising our daughters to feel confident in their skin. To take up as much space as anyone else. And to listen and trust themselves more than the noise they are surrounded by. And given the current climate, I am mad as hell.

When I tell my daughter the word ‘pussy’ is mostly derogatory, tell me: why is it?

When I explain that some men will feel obliged to a woman’s body whether she consents or not, tell me: why is that a rhetorical debate?

When I cringe at the thought of someone laughing along to ‘locker room talk’, tell me: why are those conversations funny?

I don’t want any of that near my daughters. Or my mom. Or my grandmothers. Or my sisters. Or my girlfriends. Or any woman I know.

Listen, I’m not writing this to change anyone’s mind – because respectfully there is no way anyone will change mine.

Instead, I am writing this today because it’s time we let girls be girls.

As I was telling my daughter about misogyny, she was confused: Has this always been the status quo? Slowly, I saw the fury catching fire as she listened – her face saying this will not be my story; I will not assume the lesser role.

That’s girl power before we are marginalized. Commercialized. Objectified. And vilified, if we dare to be angry.

That’s girls being girls.

So this post? This is me letting my daughters know where I stand. What I believe. That I will take up space with my voice. And when we look back at this moment 40 years from now, they’ll remember what side of this issue – and I am not talking about who won the presidency – I was on.

That I stand with women.

And the decency we deserve.

As well as the space that is rightfully ours. Whether that is in the home or as the most powerful person on the planet.

 

simple shui | a client story

over lunch last week, a girlfriend and i were talking shui.

and she asked me what i thought about the current trends on clearing clutter.

“if we don’t understand how clutter really affects us, the whole de-cluttering process becomes a run-on sentence. so, right now, everyone is getting rid of stuff – and that is great! they purge and clear and feel good. but eventually more tumbles in. it just happens. so, it’s not only about getting rid of stuff – it’s understanding HOW clutter collides head on with what we really want from life. when we get that, we suddenly have zero tolerance for acquiring too much stuff in the first place.”

“well, i’m pretty good about most of my house except my closet,” she said. “no matter how hard i try to keep it organized, it’s a weak spot for me.”

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“closets are about our authenticity – who we are in the world. so, sometimes clutter here is a way of hiding ourselves and our emotions.”

“mmmm, i don’t think that’s it. . .”

“do you follow the buy something new, give something away rule?” i asked.

“not really.”

and i get it – there is not a one-size-fits-all fix for anything. . .clutter included.

this is the moment i wildly LOVE working one-on-one with someone. i can take shui from a macro approach into a micro solution. in a way that a blog post or a published article can’t reach you.

“you know the feng shui map, right?”

she nodded.

“well, you can apply that over anything. so, if we imposed it over your bedroom, guess where the closet is? it consumes the wealth and prosperity area.”

her eyes widened and her attention perked. i could see a whole new understanding staring at her.

“what you tolerate in that space will absolutely affect your wealth energy. so, it’s a pretty good reason to clear out your closet and create some open space. because breathing space will make room for you to move in new directions. and any TLC here will mobilize luck and wealth.”

she paused.

smiled.

and said, “two words, Amanda: MIND BLOWN. i am SO cleaning my closet when i get home.”

having clutter is not a bad thing – we all have pockets of it. but when we learn how it’s causing unnecessary belligerence in our lives, well, we are usually more than motivated to swoop in and deal with it once and for all.

xo

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this summer, i am the luckiest to be teaching shui for gala darling in her radical self love coven course. there is SO much excitement hanging in the air — my voltage is off the charts! this is a fabulous way to learn how to work with shui in a way that makes sense for you. so, check it out + sign up. i guarantee you’ll be a million shades of happy if you do!

also, i am opening a few spots to do 1:1 work with me over 12 months. last july, a client asked if we could take a shui journey together for a year. i said YES, wondering what might be possible. my bubble is swelling to tell you how much marvel we’ve encountered. she’s worked hard, following through on assignments and staying the course. so, this isn’t for the skittish. but if you’re keen to make BIG changes + progress — the kind you can easily recognize + fully enjoy — this is for YOU. chime in with an email if you’re interested, and i will add you to the list!

xo

the lovelies | first day of school

the first day of school begins most years with a wave of welcome relief.

i stretch my arms wide open and embrace the return to structure and routine. squeezing all the rituals that bookend our days as if they are well-loved companions.

today, however, began with heavy hesitation. and i think it plans on shadowing me.

another year slipped through our fingers. and i suspect the days ahead will be just as slippery.

this is the lovelies’ last round in elementary school. five years gone by. and this one seems it might spin by us, too.

next year, it is the big house. and with that comes a different set of challenges and journeys. a lollapalooza of new thoughts, influences, and experiences. and it all makes me just want to hit pause until i can take enough air into my lungs. enough for one long exhale to get through those years.

which is why today feels bittersweet. tremendous overwhelm rushes me when i contemplate my wee chickens starting kindergarten. . .

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and the full bloom 5th graders they are now.

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watching little people grow is an enormous privilege. knowing these personalities sharing space with us are entirely on their own paths. sweet souls burning so brightly in their own magnificence. and to extinguish any of it would be crazy so you let the flames dance. and as they do, they consume the days. a little too quickly.

xo