simple shui | it's not my clutter!
i hear it often. “i’m not the problem; it’s my spouse//my kids//my parents//my roommates. they’re the hoarders, not me.”
it usually continues with, “i have systems. i keep things clean. i try, but she/he/they won’t listen.”
which leads to this question: “can feng shui help?”
listen, i hear you + i feel you. i live with 3 other people who all have their own systems + ideas of what tidy looks and feels like. and it doesn’t always jive with my preferences.
so, my answer comes from personal experience + errors. i’ve both earned and learned (the hard way many times) to trust the shui and get outta its way.
and here’s what i know for sure:
you cannot ‘shui’ other people without their permission, even your kids if they older than 10. this is why shui and organizing are very different practices. shui is an intentional + intuitive process, and you can’t set intentions for someone else. capice?
if you live with a clutter bug, shui your own personal spaces – again, this isn’t about organizing. it is about mindfully upgrading the energy around you, so clear the clutter + work your shui + set intentions + give gratitude. it feels like a small practice, but it’s crazy powerful for improving the energy around us and the experiences we attract. and that one undeniable change is highly contagious and influential to those watching you. and believe me, you are being watched.
clutter is about boundaries. and sometimes the neatest people can be emotionally cluttered. so, if you are well-organized but live with a clutter bug, my suggestion is honestly explore if the ‘mess’ is a reflection of something cluttered within you – disappointment, weak boundaries, indecisiveness, or lingering issues. when we resolve our own emotional clutter, the ‘outside’ begins to match how we now feel on the ‘inside’.
not all clutter is created equally – which is why there isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution. our things represent emotions + thoughts + memories. women tend to explore and expunge emotions more frequently – let’s call it familiar curriculum for us. men, however, hold those same emotions in their things. this is why men sometimes resist letting things go. how do we help? talk about your expectations as you purge your excess, and then patiently let the results speak for themselves. meanwhile, ask him about the things he holds onto. listen to the stories, if he opens up. oftentimes, that emotional release is a turning point so he, too, can edit his things comfortably.
xo
p.s. if you’d like the gab + guidance to get your life clutter free, check out my workbooks. you are what you see, so if you want to see change inside twenty-seventeen, don’t wait a single second longer!
also, i am thinking about offering a course or online group mid-year for those who’d like to incorporate shui into what they already do — kind of a shui 101 for coaches, teachers, leaders, and all other supernovas who put LOVE into the world. i have NO details yet, so tell me: does this tickle your brain? if YESSS, send me a quick note!
finally, my simple shui road tour trips to North Carolina in April and the Big Apple in May are stretching at the seams — and love beams, i am SO excited! thank you for inviting me into your communities + homes, and i can hardly wait to make shui magic with you. if you are in either city and would like to have a consult or schedule a meet-up, let me know ASAP and i’ll get you the details!
