Q & A: i’ve filed for divorce – can feng shui help me make a fresh start?
when we start practicing shui, the results are often undeniable. sometimes they are so irresistible, we want to spread the LOVE. i know this because plenty of Qs make their way to me about how we can help our loved ones. unfortunately, we cannot ‘shui’ other people without their permission (including our kids if they are older than 10!). think of this like going to the doctor – she can write you a prescription, but she can’t make you take the medicine, right? shui works when the curiosity and collaboration are self-generated. so, my best first suggestion is to encourage your sweets to look into feng shui (you might suggest this blog or insta page – wink wink!). even better? share your own story! explain why you decided to use feng shui. talk about the positive results you experienced. and make the connections how your life has improved from this practice!
which is all to say: Qs like this week’s – on the first steps toward divorce – are difficult to answer. the nuances of every person’s situation vary so much, i made a few ‘getting started’ suggestions instead. these considerations will certainly mitigate some of the bumps in the road and help shore up beneficial, nourishing energy as she moves forward on her new path.
THE QUESTION: i was recently telling my friend what you do, how you have really helped me see that things in our space hold energy, and how we need to focus on making the best use of that.
to give some back story, she’s filed for divorce from her husband and is trying to move forward with that process. they have two boys together. she fully realizes her soon-to-be-ex is not in a good place and the lying, cheating and narcissism is not healthy for her or her boys. she’s moving at the end of the school year to be closer to her family – and it is a cross country move.
we started talking about that and what to do with her ring – which is how we ventured into this feng shui conversational space. she’s ready for a fresh start and knows she deserves better. any suggestions?
THE SHUI: these situations are often best remedied in a 1:1 consult because the answers are highly dependent on the client’s emotional bandwidth and circumstances. however, i have a few suggestions that will support her decision and help her blossom as she grows into this new life!
if the ring conjures up negative feelings, encourage her to get rid of it before the move so the energy (and its patterns) don’t come along. ask her to shift from ‘what do i do with it?’ to ‘why would i keep this if i don’t like its story?’. it might clarify and lubricate the letting go process.
the left side of a home (if you are standing at the door looking in) represents feminine energy. this space is receptive to divine energy, so invite her to consider adding a goddess or feminine guide here. it could be a statue, image, or even a book. any one of those done with intention will enhance feminine energy, which would translate into self-empowerment. have her set the intention that the space will fertilize her ability to howl with confidence + own her choices FULLY + unabashedly love herself!
also, ask her to find a photo/artwork of a vast landscape – this speaks to Earth energy. Mother Earth shows us how to receive and nurture life. ‘Her Majesty’ makes us feel supported, safe, and cradled. and Earth energy is both metaphor and invitation for the Universe to have our back.
encourage her to get a new mattress.
and lastly, a little space clearing before she moves into the ‘new’ space is a BIG deal, so rally her to make the investment before she settles in. xo
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