if you can’t see it, you can’t change it
whether you’re growing a business, building relationships, or trying to establish a new habit, consistency matters.
the same thing holds true inside our home.
I just started Jesse Jean’s ‘Yap Challenge’, and the premise is pretty straightforward: show up. ‘yap.’ be seen. let people get to know you.
it reminds me of something that happened years ago in a yoga class.
I rolled into class wearing my usual three-quarter length leggings and a tank top. mid-class, my instructor walked over and said, “you’re never going to see results dressed like that.”
“excuse me?” I looked around the room, thinking, ‘just because everyone else is wearing tiny shorts and sports bras doesn’t mean I have to…’
she then said something that hit every one of my cells: “if you can’t see it, you can’t fix it.”
the next class, I reluctantly wore the sports bra and shorts… and then the next class… and the next. for nearly three years.
and.
it remains the only season of my life where I had an actual six-pack. I strutted around with the strongest legs I’d ever had. and it had nothing to do with suddenly working harder. it was because I could see what I was working on. for 90 uninterrupted minutes, a couple times a week, I could watch my alignment and actually notice the tiny corrections. I was adjusting in real time.
back to the yap challenge: visibility changes everything.
it is also exactly what Feng Shui does.
if you say you want more abundance, but your table never holds fresh flowers… you don’t ever see ‘I am worth it’ abundance.
if you say you want to eat healthier, but your counters are covered in clutter instead of a bowl of fresh fruit… you don’t immediately think ‘healthy choices, healthy lifestyle. ’
if you want your home to feel like an exhale when you walk through the door, but every surface is asking for your attention… you don’t get the replenishment you really crave.
your home is waging influence over you every single day. and in fact, I’d argue your home communicates with you more consistently than you communicate with yourself.
we tell ourselves:
“I’ll get to that eventually.”
“I’ll organize that next month.”
“When the promotion comes, I will take the time…”
“Once things settle down…”
your home doesn’t speak in future tense without your help. it reflects exactly what you’ve left it saying, and that message becomes your default – whether you realize it or not.
so, this weekend, I’d LOVE for you to begin changing that conversation.
what’s one thing you’re changing in your home this weekend. fresh flowers? clearing a drawer? finally hanging the artwork? xo
