Q & A: the Feng Shui question most people don’t ask…

a year ago, i sat in a doctor’s office listening to our pretty ordinary life shatter. every word that left her mouth pivoted me further away from where i thought we were headed. i was finalizing my book. i had several trips planned, including two to L.A. — to be on a morning show and another to film a sizzle reel. and we were on the brink of another busy holiday season.

she told me our path would require everything we had and it would probably not feel like enough. she explained it would be expensive. and she told me one of us — my husband or i — would need to take time off to manage the care plan she recommended. he’d just started a new job, so…

i cancelled my trips. i rescheduled whatever offered wiggle room. i handed the book off to my designer, praying the edits were good enough. and i started learning everything i could about this unwanted presence in our lives.

this story isn’t mine to tell, so the details here are ambiguous intentionally. and. they’re also not the point of this post.

i say often we can’t shui other people. it’s intentional work, so it requires participation. but do you know what no one ever asks me: can i shui my house to HELP ME better support my loved one? we might not be able to shui for our loved ones, but we can show up for them at our best.

so. after leaving the doctor’s office that day, i took a few more days to process the new heaviness. and then, i shui’d every part of my home that i knew would help me.

i had our windows cleaned so we could easily *see* help available. i purged the center of our house so the treatments and support could be fully received. i cooked every night, using recipes that required both the stove and oven. i space cleared — not to deter eruptions, but to make their inevitable clean up even easier. and i placed large pieces of rose quartz throughout our home.

i have yet to go to bed completely care-free, but — and this is what i hope you hear — i wake every morning with precisely enough to handle what comes our way. the *right people* are always there, with reliable synchronicity. and. i can look back today on where we were with a FULL HEART because progress, my loves, we’ve made. xo